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There is a school of thought which says that we are largely a collection of habits, which get reinforced each time we follow them. Who knows how they start, probably some chance event when we were children, or something out parents taught us – but once they are established they become “us”.
I’m impatient, and chatty, and I like maths – but these are just learned behaviours and habits so when I am confronted by a queue or a party or a puzzle I react in certain ways – I access whatever “script” is relevant – the chatty script isn’t relevant when I am doing a puzzle; the impatient one might be though!
But what if we want to change a script? If you want to change anything about yourself – be less shy, be more patient, be better at maths, less frightened of giving a presentation, braver when confronted by someone rude, worry less, – anything…….
The answer is that instead of following your scripts and making them stronger, you can tell yourself that the script is incorrect. I AM a patient person, I LOVE giving presentations…. etc
Here’s a video about how you would do it, and why it works:
It does feel odd at first though – there’s a thing called “cognitive dissonance” where your subconscious goes “What?? You’re telling me you’re patient when for years you’ve been telling me you’re not??” But after a while it accepts the new situation and then you’ve won – you’ve changed that script.
Which of your scripts would you change? What one thing would you like to fix or improve about yourself?
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Great fodder for thought!! Applicable for everyone…we must start working before it gets too late for us! Thanks for sharing…